Charlie O'Brien blog: Having a bad week as a mum? You’re not alone
I always worry about admitting I’ve had a tough week.
Firstly because I’ve been attacked online before, and told I shouldn’t moan and should be grateful for what I’ve got. And secondly because I know many people have much tougher lives than me.
But – whatever our situation or status, I truly believe we should be able to say, “I’m struggling” without fear of criticism. By openly discussing the struggles of parenting and mental health we’re normalising it more and more. Which surely isn’t a bad thing?
So why do I feel like I’m sinking this week?
Nothing major has happened, but both of my children have fallen ill yet again and I’m just about keeping my head above water on three hours of very broken sleep.
As a result I’m feeling bloated because I’m cracking into anything with sugar, my kitchen floor desperately needs a mop and my pile of admin and unopened post is so high it’s starting to rival Burj Khalifa.
Yes it’s definitely a list of First World Problems – I know. But I can still feel my mental health suffering. I’ve been on the verge of tears all week and the smallest things have started to stress me out.
And I KNOW I’m not alone.
Every day I read similar accounts from mums (and dads too) on Instagram and Facebook. Parenting can feel like a lonely old struggle, especially if you don’t have a support network nearby.
But there are places you can turn to if you’re feeling like this. One of those places is the Channel Mum support group – an online forum space where you can go to discuss what’s worrying you.
There’s a dedicated space to discuss mental health, miscarriage and baby loss and there’s even a friendship bench if you’re feeling a little lonely.
It’s ok to admit you’re struggling or sinking and usually a good night’s sleep (what’s that?!) and a cup of tea with a friend will help.
From one knackered parent to another – you’re not alone.